I recently watched a Ted Talk—"The Secret to Becoming Mentally Strong” by Amy Morin. The many tragedies she has endured brought me to tears many times, but I also came away inspired and determined to make becoming mentally strong a priority. I agreed with everything she said, especially how Facebook, while it can be a great tool for connecting with friends and family, can also be a source of envy, which can lead to depression. The portrayed perfect perfect spouse, perfect children, jobs, vacations, etc. can sometimes make you feel “less than.” Even though logically we know their lives aren’t perfect, we compare and find our lives lacking in some way.
Here are some of the traps she mentioned:
Unhealthy beliefs about ourselves: self-pity – “Why do bad things always happen to me?” “I can never catch a break.”
Unhealthy beliefs about others: we give away our power to others – “I have to work,” or “My neighbor drives me crazy.”
Unhealthy beliefs about the world: we want fairness, even though we’ve probably been told life isn’t fair – “I’ve worked hard, so I deserve that promotion,” or anything that smacks of entitlement.
These small habits can have a huge, negative impact. To become mentally strong, we need to give up these bad habits, not just develop good habits.
What’s one bad habit that you KNOW you need to give up? How do you see your life changing when you succeed?