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I won’t bore you with the reasons why I grew up thinking perfectionism was a goal worth pursuing, but I will tell you it’s a heavy burden. I know, logically, that perfect is boring and usually annoying. I don’t seek out that type of person as a friend or someone I want to work with as I grow my business. Yet, when it’s so intertwined in your being, it’s a challenge to let go of those self-imposed “rules.” Awareness is the first step. While I embrace the components of perfectionism that help me to succeed, for the less healthy and productive elements, I’ve developed some coping skills over the years:

·        If you fuss over your hair, trying to get every strand to fall perfectly (guilty!) try a hairstyle that is MESSY! It’s been the most liberating thing I’ve ever done. In fact, when it starts looking a little too styled, I purposely mess it up and I’m grinning the entire time. I went short and spikey, but the choices are endless.

·        If you fret over entertaining (guilty!) try choosing a time/season that is the least stressful for you in case the worst happens—that no one shows up. Of course, this rarely happens, but the fear can mess with your mind. For my first big party I chose Christmas, my favorite holiday; I made myself crazy at first trying to find the “perfect” date for everyone, then had the genius idea to do what was less stressful for me and decided on the Sunday between Christmas and New Year’s Day. Christmas shopping, baking, and office parties are over and the decorations are still up. A fun time was had by all!

·        If you can’t cut a straight line, hate your handwriting, and aren’t very creative, yet you want to scrapbook—STRESSFUL! Patterned scissors are your friend, but there's not much I can do about the other shortcomings, except to tell myself that I’m preserving precious memories and it will be comic relief for my kids when they’re older and they’ll know I at least tried.

I also agree with Sarah Marinos in her article “The Disadvantages of Being a Perfectionist” that self-compassion and kindness are important. I encourage you to read her article for more suggestions on how to be “less perfect.”

What resonated with you the most? Please share your tips for coping with perfectionism!




Scheduled Events
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 06/26/2018, Tuesday

 Oils & Margaritas! - 6:00pm

What: Let's have some fun over dinner learning about natural solutions! The first 3 people to show up will receive a free bottle of Wild Orange Essential Oil! Bring friends. RSVP so I will know how many seats to save.

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Where:Poblanos Mexican Grill & Bar, 2697 Boones Creek Rd, Johnson City, TN 37615, USA

Duration:6:00pm to 7:30pm

 06/27/2018, Wednesday

 Drop-In Wednesdays - 2:00pm

What: Do you have questions about essential oils but have a difficult time making it to a class? This is a great opportunity to just drop in and ask your questions! Awesome coffee house with $1.00 coffee for us seniors--yay! A wonderful menu and the friendliest staff. Can't wait to share a cup and some knowledge about how essential oils can support you toward wellness!

Where:Open Doors Coffeehouse, 101 E 8th Ave, Johnson City, TN 37601, USA

Duration:2:00pm to 4:00pm

 07/04/2018, Wednesday

 Drop-In Wednesdays - 2:00pm

What: Do you have questions about essential oils but have a difficult time making it to a class? This is a great opportunity to just drop in and ask your questions! Awesome coffee house with $1.00 coffee for us seniors--yay! A wonderful menu and the friendliest staff. Can't wait to share a cup and some knowledge about how essential oils can support you toward wellness!

Where:Open Doors Coffeehouse, 101 E 8th Ave, Johnson City, TN 37601, USA

Duration:2:00pm to 4:00pm

 07/11/2018, Wednesday

 Drop-In Wednesdays - 2:00pm

What: Do you have questions about essential oils but have a difficult time making it to a class? This is a great opportunity to just drop in and ask your questions! Awesome coffee house with $1.00 coffee for us seniors--yay! A wonderful menu and the friendliest staff. Can't wait to share a cup and some knowledge about how essential oils can support you toward wellness!

Where:Open Doors Coffeehouse, 101 E 8th Ave, Johnson City, TN 37601, USA

Duration:2:00pm to 4:00pm

 07/18/2018, Wednesday

 Drop-In Wednesdays - 2:00pm

What: Do you have questions about essential oils but have a difficult time making it to a class? This is a great opportunity to just drop in and ask your questions! Awesome coffee house with $1.00 coffee for us seniors--yay! A wonderful menu and the friendliest staff. Can't wait to share a cup and some knowledge about how essential oils can support you toward wellness!

Where:Open Doors Coffeehouse, 101 E 8th Ave, Johnson City, TN 37601, USA

Duration:2:00pm to 4:00pm

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